Add settings to remote servers, use XDG paths on remote, and enable node LSPs (#19176)

Supersedes https://github.com/zed-industries/zed/pull/19166

TODO:
- [x] Update basic zed paths
- [x] update create_state_directory
- [x] Use this with `NodeRuntime`
- [x] Add server settings
- [x] Add an 'open server settings command'
- [x] Make sure it all works


Release Notes:

- Updated the actions `zed::OpenLocalSettings` and `zed::OpenLocalTasks`
to `zed::OpenProjectSettings` and `zed::OpenProjectTasks`.

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Co-authored-by: Conrad <conrad@zed.dev>
Co-authored-by: Richard <richard@zed.dev>

crates/auto_update/src/auto_update.rs

@@ -130,7 +130,7 @@ impl Settings for AutoUpdateSetting {
     type FileContent = Option<AutoUpdateSettingContent>;
 
     fn load(sources: SettingsSources<Self::FileContent>, _: &mut AppContext) -> Result<Self> {
-        let auto_update = [sources.release_channel, sources.user]
+        let auto_update = [sources.server, sources.release_channel, sources.user]
             .into_iter()
             .find_map(|value| value.copied().flatten())
             .unwrap_or(sources.default.ok_or_else(Self::missing_default)?);