Add settings to remote servers, use XDG paths on remote, and enable node LSPs (#19176)

Supersedes https://github.com/zed-industries/zed/pull/19166

TODO:
- [x] Update basic zed paths
- [x] update create_state_directory
- [x] Use this with `NodeRuntime`
- [x] Add server settings
- [x] Add an 'open server settings command'
- [x] Make sure it all works


Release Notes:

- Updated the actions `zed::OpenLocalSettings` and `zed::OpenLocalTasks`
to `zed::OpenProjectSettings` and `zed::OpenProjectTasks`.

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Co-authored-by: Conrad <conrad@zed.dev>
Co-authored-by: Richard <richard@zed.dev>

crates/project/src/terminals.rs

@@ -367,7 +367,11 @@ pub fn wrap_for_ssh(
         // replace ith with something that works
         let tilde_prefix = "~/";
         if path.starts_with(tilde_prefix) {
-            let trimmed_path = &path_string[tilde_prefix.len()..];
+            let trimmed_path = path_string
+                .trim_start_matches("/")
+                .trim_start_matches("~")
+                .trim_start_matches("/");
+
             format!("cd \"$HOME/{trimmed_path}\"; {env_changes} {to_run}")
         } else {
             format!("cd {path:?}; {env_changes} {to_run}")