Add settings to remote servers, use XDG paths on remote, and enable node LSPs (#19176)

Supersedes https://github.com/zed-industries/zed/pull/19166

TODO:
- [x] Update basic zed paths
- [x] update create_state_directory
- [x] Use this with `NodeRuntime`
- [x] Add server settings
- [x] Add an 'open server settings command'
- [x] Make sure it all works


Release Notes:

- Updated the actions `zed::OpenLocalSettings` and `zed::OpenLocalTasks`
to `zed::OpenProjectSettings` and `zed::OpenProjectTasks`.

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Co-authored-by: Conrad <conrad@zed.dev>
Co-authored-by: Richard <richard@zed.dev>

crates/proto/src/proto.rs

@@ -367,6 +367,9 @@ messages!(
     (ShutdownRemoteServer, Foreground),
     (RemoveWorktree, Foreground),
     (LanguageServerLog, Foreground),
+    (Toast, Background),
+    (HideToast, Background),
+    (OpenServerSettings, Foreground),
 );
 
 request_messages!(
@@ -490,7 +493,8 @@ request_messages!(
     (AddWorktree, AddWorktreeResponse),
     (CheckFileExists, CheckFileExistsResponse),
     (ShutdownRemoteServer, Ack),
-    (RemoveWorktree, Ack)
+    (RemoveWorktree, Ack),
+    (OpenServerSettings, OpenBufferResponse)
 );
 
 entity_messages!(
@@ -564,6 +568,10 @@ entity_messages!(
     UpdateUserSettings,
     CheckFileExists,
     LanguageServerLog,
+    Toast,
+    HideToast,
+    OpenServerSettings,
+
 );
 
 entity_messages!(